Are you dating a Grown matured man or are you thinking to plunge your toes into more matured water? Well, then you have come to right place to know about the facts of Dating someone older than you.There is something too jazzy about dating an old man. Simply looking at the instances of George Clooney, Brad Pitt and such handsome hunk they look better now than their twenties and these men are like the older they become the better they look just like a fine old vine. And not dating someone like that is so not happening.
It’s quite thrilling to find few pros and cons of dating a man couple of years older than you.
1. Dating someone older is great because an Elder Partner is a Complete Person
An older man will have had all the Experiences in the World and is more knowledgeable to be your mentor at times. Also, he is balanced and has built-in wealth. He is well-balanced both emotionally and practically as all educated and modern women want a man who can handle their temperament. He has all chivalry and maturity. You
2. Your Partner may act a bit Stubborn
He may act a bit Stubborn as with him what you see is what you get. Anyhow, women can’t change a Stubborn man but both have to bend equally in a healthy relationship.
3. They know how to make “IT” work
To be romantic takes time and knowledge, not only experience can bring the flavor of romance. With hugs, kisses, flowers and lit up candles, he is excellent in practice of lovemaking.
4. With them, Jealousy acquires a Backseat
A grown matured man have already bid Goodbye to Jealousy! Yes, he will not bother if you get around with your girlfriends; he won’t even force you to take him along to your family get along. He will respect your space out of a relationship and that’s what a Gentleman acts like. He knows why he picked you and he knows his worth so relax he will never be empowered by Jealousy.
5. They tend to be Emotionally Balanced
An elder man who has achieved maturity will never try to escape from emotionally unstable circumstances as he will never dodge at the prospect of delicate conversation. Instead, he will sit down and think calmly being than have a conversation with you with a balanced mind.
6. No more Texting Games
When you are with an elder partner you do not have to worry about text games. They do not like to communicate through time-consuming modes of contact. They don’t believe in wasting too much time so they will rather prefer to accept the straight approach of communicating.
7. Have lived an entire life before meeting You
Yes, ladies, he has lived an entire life before meeting you – by entire life we mean all the things in the world. Your Partner has years of affairs, bad relationships, friendships, work experience, heartbreak, falling in love (even marriage) and more than you couldn’t possibly have. They might have had their first date before you were trained for sh*t.
8. You will keep hearing “Age is just a number”
They are so egoistic and insane when it comes to their age. Every time you try to make them understand the point making them understand that he/she is older than you then in return you will hear “Age is just a number”. By this pick up line they think they could date younger and hotter women/men.
9. Your Partner may not be able to connect to your Day To Day Struggles
A lot of day to day struggles you find in your early twenties is different than the struggles in thirties. You may freak out hearing your friend’s wedding while your half of your Partner’s friends are married and may have kids too. You may even get insecure if his/her ex like a bunch of pics on Instagram while he may find it okay as few of his/her friends may be dealing with divorces. Your elder Partner may find it really difficult to fully understand your day to day Struggles – in this context he/she should give you some respect as well as personal space.
10. They are more Financial Savvy than You
Your maturely grown Partner might have learned enough lessons on saving money, managing the accounts and balancing his/her checkbooks. Your Partner’s dream of buying a home or Sedan cars sounds much like a reality as they have saved a hell lot of money from their years of working while buying a home or car is a mere dream for you as you do not have enough savings. They are Financially Savvy than you so their needs for buying anything is not a mere dream.
11. They have years of Experience you haven’t Bumped into yet
Your Partner has years of experience that you will hear “When I was in my twenties what I experienced is….” a lot of time. The fact that he/she have lived longer may make you feel childlike every time when he makes comparisons and narrates his twenties experiences.
12. You have the alibi to act Kiddish
Enjoy the fact that being a couple of years younger than your Partner gives you the freedom to act childish. Whenever your Partner tells you “God, you’re acting like a child!” you have the alibi to revert back to them “Yes I am your little girl/boy and I can act like a child – No big a deal!” He/She will hardly have any reply back to this excuse you make.
13. Your Partner will have lot of Stories to tell
Your elder Partner will always come with lot of stories to tell you from their “Book of Life!” They have more experiences in their life so they will come with many stories every now and then. You may listen to their stories since you started dating him/her and still not hear everything.
14. He/She is willing and Commit to settle Down with you
The chances of getting settled with your elder Partner are pretty good if they do not fall in the category of people who never wanted to get married. If they are willing to get married then they are committed to you and want to settle down with you.
15. You and Your Partner will get weird Looks from People
People will give you and your Partner weird looks. They will even make your parents against you making your parents believe that it will be hard to cop up with elder Partner in terms of compatibility and all.
16. No more First time sharing
Your Partner may have been married before, may have had kids and may also have traveled all the places you might have dream of going to. Depending on his/her life experiences they “might have been there and might have done there”. So if you want to do all those things for first time together than elder Partner is not the one to be in relationship with.
17. Biggest reason Your Partner loves you is ‘You are Young’
The biggest reason your Partner is with you is that you are young flower for him/her. Your grown up lover knows that you will be bent in the direction which he/she want you to bend in. Also, you have had no experience and maturity to win in front of them.
18. You have to choose between defending Friendship or Relationship
The most difficult part of dating an elder Partner is that they don’t like you hanging out with your young friends. And then arises the situation that you have to choose to go on a dinner with his/her friends where everyone will probably talk about kids, marriages and divorces or you have to choose to go on a freaking party with your friends. So there is lot of compromise.
19. It’s always a Lose Game – If you let your parents know or not
Your relationship might turn up into a lose game at the end. If you tell your Parents about Your Partner then they might object to the relationship and they may question the motives of an older boyfriend/girlfriend.. And on the other end if your elder Partner just want you because you are younger and don’t want to marry you then also you lose.
20. Your Partner maybe running from a bad Relationship with Men/Women of their Age
Your Partner may have more wives/husbands, girlfriends/boyfriends or lovers than you. Possibilities are they may be running from a bad relationship with men/women of their own age so they decided to show up to you unless their bad relationship works out well. So there are chances of you elder Partner double dating you along with the men/women of their age.
21. Watch Out for the Pattern they may follow
Watch out for the signs he/she could probably use on you as well as other young men/women. They might lure you with the same old patterns they use to do in their High-school. Beware of his/her signs that may trap you in their fishing net.
22. Evil ex’s of Your Partner will make your life like Hell
Your Partner’s ex wives/husbands or ex girlfriends/boyfriends will not let you live happily with him/her. Your someone older’s ex will call you, text you and try to harass you in all possible ways he/she could do. They may even threaten you in the name of your Parents or family.
23. They can do things You Can’t do
You will stop seeing your friends and doing things you used to do, like boozy brunches and random warehouse parties. While they can do things you are not supposed to do.
24. They may want to hook up before You are ready
They have lived into those whole random hookups stage so they might want to hook up with you before you are even ready for that. If they are in thirties they may be sex addicted that they might want to be indulge into screwing-around shit way too early.
25. Grow Up in Different times So No Same Cultural Thoughts
You may realize that you and your Partner do not share same taste when it comes to songs or movie and that may take a toll on your relationship. Cultural differences will constantly remind you of existing age differences between you and your Partner.
26. No Mutual Friends
Most of your Partner’s friends are married with kids while your friends are about to get married. You may have to start attending children’s parties or family-type get together with his/her group. While you miss being with your crazy buddies and having fun.
27. Your Partner maybe Way Too Manipulative
They could treat you as an inferior and see themselves as an Authority. They are way too manipulative believing you are younger and you don’t have enough knowledge to take your own decisions.
28. You are On the Different Level In Life
There may arise differences in interests, hobbies and overall mind set between you and your elder Partner. Also thought process differs which might add up to more difficulties in understanding each other. You are in twenties then you might be interested in experiencing new things and engaging in different activities, while your Partner in thirties might be interested in a more quiet lifestyle.
So, would you consider dating someone older than you? Because, sometimes it is the older the better.
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