10 Sex Myths About Women That Are Totally False

Sex myth number 10: Women want less sex

This is the number one complaint men have about their partners. And they then begin to wonder that if it is their fault or that the sex isn’t good enough. Well, this myth is wrong. Women want just as much or probably more sex than men. But it might be that life and responsibilities get in the way or that women are not more open in communicating their desires. A study on what were called ‘highly sexual women’ was recently published by Wentland and colleagues. Based on the responses of 932 women to their online questionnaire, they found that 52 percent of their sample could be classified as “highly sexual.” Although sexual desire itself was not measured here, it does give some insight that women who are highly sexual may not be as rare as one might assume

Sex myth number 9: Good sex always results in orgasms

Wrong. It might seem like an idea situation but t isn’t always so. Your partner can enjoy sex even if she doesn’t have orgasm. As told by Rachel Grumman Bender, “Having an orgasm is an incredible sensation, but it doesn’t have to be the end-all-be-all, singular goal of sex. Getting busy can still be a supremely pleasurable, bonding, and relaxing experience regardless of whether it concludes with a climax”.

Sex myth number 8: Women are not visual

We have often heard that “Men are visual creatures”. And men have proven this to be true. This suggests that women are not as visual, or not visual at all. But new research suggests that women may be just as visually driven when it comes to sex as men are. One study described in Bergner’s book found that women’s eyes linger on erotic imagery just as much as men’s do, and a recent Neilson report found that one in three porn users was female. “Every one of Chivers’ experiments shows an immediate physical response to erotic imagery, and that in itself is an indication that we’ve been missing something,” says Bergner.

Sex myth number 7: Women do not want to initiate sex

Men may have come to believe this but this myth is actually false. “It may have a lot to do with the fact that we’re much more accepting of male sexual initiation,” says Bergner. But a speed dating experiment mentioned in his book explains what happens when gender norms are reversed. When women made the rounds at a speed-dating event while the men remained seated, their self-reported desire for the men increased. In his book, Bergner says that “Suddenly, women were checking as many boxes as men, indicating that there’s something about the social structures we have—the physical act of stepping toward something—that changes the way we experience desire,”.

Sex myth number 6: Oysters give her more sex drive

This myth is totally false. So there is no point in taking her to a restaurant just for oysters, or making some at home, if you are in the mood for sex afterwards. It might be due to the fact that oysters resemble female anatomy that got this myth started, or the fact that they give off scent is not too dissimilar to TMA — the female pheromones that women give off when in the mood. However, scientists at Harvard Medical School have claimed that the seafood has no special ingredients that would make her feel that extra special something. Dr Robert H. Shmerling, an associate professor, said: “We still have a way to go before saying there is scientific evidence that claims oysters boost

libido. But oysters do contain a lot of zinc which is essential for healthy sperm.”

Sex myth number 5: Bananas make her feel more sexy

Well another food item that supposedly makes your partner have sex with you. This is also a myth that is false. It was probably triggered due to the fact that bananas have a phallic shape. They are used in jokes because of this but apart from health benefits, they have nothing to do with sexual drive. Bananas are packed with potassium and vitamin B, which are great for sex hormone production. But lots of other foods contain the same essential minerals and they also have no effect on sexual drive. Sex experts have said bananas are only thought of as sex stimulants because of their resemblance to a male parts. However, eating a banana before bed is said to be a great sleep inducer. So it might be having an opposite effect after all. Better to leave them in the fruit bowl if you have plans after date night.

Sex myth number 4: Women do not get wet dreams.

Men are generally thought to be more sex driven. Therefore it is assumed that only they have wet dreams. This is totally not true. You would be surprised to know that your partner also has wet dreams, probably more than you do, whether she admits it or not. According to Dr Ellen Laan, a psychologist at the University of Amsterdam, many women will wake up with an “intense pleasure of an orgasm”. A recent study found 40 per cent of women had experienced a nocturnal orgasm, with around one in three women reported having one in the last year.

In 1953, sex researcher Alfred Kinsey estimated that about 70% of women had had sexual dreams at some point in their lives. By age 45, 37% of the women in his study group had had a sexual dream that brought them to orgasm. The women who had nocturnal orgasms tended to have them about three or four times a year. A 1986 study in The Journal of Sex Research found that most women who had nocturnal orgasms had their first one before the age of 21. For women, the experience is less “wet” but still intense. The sexual dreams may lead to vaginal lubrication and orgasms (often called nocturnal orgasms). They can happen during adolescence and throughout adulthood.

Sex myth number 3: She needs to love you deeply to have good sex

That is quite wrong. If this were true, men would not be going to prostitutes or staying with women they think don’t love them. As with men, most women don’t feel guilty about having sex with someone they don’t love. They are also able to differentiate their hearts and their bodies, resulting in good sex with a man she doesn’t even love or care for.

Sex myth number 2: Sex is a cycle of desire, then arousal, and then orgasm

This myth is also false. According to Kristen Mark desire doesn’t always have to come before arousal. Remember the sexual response cycle you learned in health class? That’s right, most of you likely didn’t learn about this in school… what a shame… topic for another post, perhaps. The model most commonly taught is Masters & Johnson’s model of sexual response. It is linear. It doesn’t include desire. And it ends with orgasm followed by resolution (they say women don’t have to go through resolution, hence the ability for multiple orgasm). A sex therapist, Helen Singer Kaplan, came along and added desire to the model. But she left the model linear, with desire preceding arousal. A more recent model, created by Basson, allows for sexual desire to happen at any stage; much more accurate to women’s experience. Sometimes, you don’t have any desire but your partner starts messing around with you, arousal kicks in, and bam — there’s some desire you didn’t know you had. Desire doesn’t have to come first, and there is not necessarily anything wrong with you if it doesn’t.

Sex myth number 1: Happy couples have sex all the time

This myth is also false so you can rest easy knowing that even if she is not initiating sex as much you would like, or you are not having the ideal number of sexy times a week you can still be happy together.

Most people relate more sex in a relationship to being more happier or more ‘in love’ together. Amy Muise, a social psychologist and postdoctoral fellow at the University of Toronto-Mississauga says that having sex more often than that doesn’t make us any happier. “Once a week makes sense in some ways because I think many people would still see this as having regular sex,”.

Muise and her colleagues used data from more than 30,000 Americans to look at the relationship between happiness and sexual frequency. In one of the bigger surprises, results were the same for men and women, for young and old, and for long and short relationships. That’s right: once a week.